Sunday, 10 February 2019

Why you should pawn your kids off on their grandparents as often as possible


If you have ever felt a little guilt about handing your kids off to your parents or your in-laws too often, I am here to set you free. As it turns out - and let us pretend we knew this all along - babysitting their grandkids is actually good for their health.

A study has found that grandparents who are involved in the care of their grandchildren not only live longer than seniors who do not actively care for other people, the numbers are actually quite impressive: They have a 37% lower mortality risk than adults of the same age.

The study does not prove cause and effect, but researchers do have some theories about the results, published on the United Kingdom’s National Health Service website:

Further research would be needed to find out what causes the increased life expectancy of caregivers. The researchers offer a number of explanations, such as spending time with grandchildren is a good way for older people to have a sense of purpose, while keeping them physically and mentally active.


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Forum: Don't blame inequality when child can't read

Flogging socio-economic inequality as the underlying reason for all manner of social ills, including the inability of children from some low-income families to read, is feeble as there is ample evidence to show that with the right attitude and application, such disadvantages need not be permanent (Inequality can affect child's reading ability, by Mr Thaqif Ismail; Feb 2).

What is so obnoxious about Ms Lenny Rahman's suggestion that all parents should take a vested interest in their children's education, instead of merely outsourcing it to schools or enrichment classes?

Her tone may have been harsh, but she was speaking a well-intentioned truth out of sheer frustration at parental negligence.

Not once did she raise the sceptre of tuition to nurture good reading habits in children.

In fact, spending huge sums on tuition may just turn out to be counterproductive and wasteful.

It does not take a fortune for children to learn the basics of reading. Everyone has access to free reading material at the numerous libraries across our island.

All these children need is some proper nurturing from their parents at home, not more of the same old crutch-and-defeatist mentality.

Those who find it tough to juggle the demands of work with raising their children - and this applies to parents from different socio-economic backgrounds - may perhaps wish to heed Ms Rahman's advice to start a family only when they are emotionally, intellectually and financially more secure.

There is only so much that "systemic familial inequality" can do to one's fate if one has the innate intelligence, drive, savvy and adaptability to overcome one's adversities.

Inequality will affect children's ability to read only if their parents allow it.

Toh Cheng Seong


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My 2 cents:

In the latter letter, the writer claims that it is the responsibility of the education to teach children to read.

His words: Saying that parents should be responsible for helping children to read is similar to saying that individuals should be answerable for their own achievements in education and life. Both are neither helpful nor illuminating.

If he knows individuals should be answerable for their own achievements in education and life, why is he still arguing that the teachers are responsible for the children's achievements. If a person becomes rich and famous,do you think he will thank his teachers for making him rich and famous. Of course not. He became rich and famous through his own ability.

A teacher merely passes the same information to the whole class. But that does not mean all pupils can understand 100% of what is being said. Some can understand 100%, some maybe 75%, some even 0%. When the whole class reads together, a teacher would not know if any child is not reading or does not know some words.

So, it is best that a parent reads with his/her child and explains to the child if he/she does not know how to read correctly.

I could still remember that it was my granny who held my hand and taught me to write my name in Chinese. Do you think a teacher can do that to all the pupils in the class?

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